i had a lackluster care for marriage equality.
"some day."
but when michigan granted marriage equality and we celebrated for 23 hours and all of a sudden my love gained validation and we made verbal plans and then the imperial AG appealed and it stayed and then like that i felt the suckerpunch.
and it was that moment i decided i give a really big damn. because dammit, i'm no less of a contributing citizen than you and you just dangled a carrot in front of me and it touched my lips and i don't like when i can taste something but i don't get to chew it and then decide to spit or swallow.
i remember being a young girl and daydreaming.
daydreaming of white flowers and a long aisle and it being outside somewhere and most often i was busy making the mental list of my bridal party. never once did i picture myself in a wedding dress. but i pictured just about everything else. and as time went on everything remained but the list would be updated, in case, of course, it finally mattered.
aside from the dress part, isn't that a normal daydream for any little girl from any where, who dreams of finding love and then sealing it in front of those important and then vowing to uphold it and live it and breathe it and be it?
it shouldn't be a matter of concern to any outside party who it is standing at one end of an aisle and who it is standing at the other.
it should be a matter of concern however that inequality exists. subhuman snubbing by self-proclaimed superiors, as if they know a love greater than mine.
love is love.
don't call it marriage then, if it bothers you so much. if my happiness creeps into your kitchen while you're having dinner with your precious family, and then rattles you to your core, so much so you can't enjoy the bite of your wife's perfect meatloaf. but call it something and allow me the rights you have, the 1,138 statutory provisions that the unmarried don't. allow me the right to be my daughter's legal parent. that comes with marriage equality too, ya know.
this discussion is getting old.
it isn't even a discussion.
political leverage?
campaign fodder?
whatever.
it's downright annoying by now.
GROW UP.
[-written after the overturned decision in March-]
Today, we await another decision.
"Get it right today, 6th U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals. "Arguments in the marriage equality cases in 4 states will be heard today in front of a three judge panel." There's nothing to argue about. Why must we argue? Love is love. And it's not so we can throw a big party...it's so I can legally be the parent of my girl that's coming in 14 weeks! #equality #loveislove #babyontheway" -mg, FB status, 8/6/14Today, we wait again.
"I don't ever go political on here. But Autumn and I are advocates for education, especially after yesterday's announcement in Michigan. Marriage isn't just about a "piece of paper." We know we don't need a "piece of paper" to validate our love and our family. But, what we do need is the right to marry so that I can adopt our daughter. I won't be on her birth certificate. That's my DNA in Autumn's belly (we used my egg, how cool is that?!) and I have zero rights to my own DNA because I can't marry that baby's mother. Autumn has to write permission slips for me to take my biological daughter to the doctor. This is what many don't realize when they say "it's just a piece of paper." #education #gaylife #reality" -mg, FB status, 11/7/14
http://www.freedomtomarry.org/states/entry/c/michigan
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