melissa gratz.
Detroit-bred, BGSU alummed and Alpha Phi lifer. Scentsy addicted. Lover of Michigan & Michigan's Great Lakes. Semi-serious Costco patron, newly obsessed with hot tea. Appreciator of fine Real Estate and a wanna-be artist of somekind. Collector of office supplies and post-it notes, adores anything butchy-chic and any collages of random yet related things. Pinterest is kinda how my brain works - one second I'm thinking of constructing a headboard, three seconds later I'm distracted by reorganizing a junk drawer.

All salt must be followed by sweet, and vice versa. A caramel covered pretzel, voila. And Diet Coke. And pistachios. And popcorn.

I always have great intentions but often stifle when it comes to follow through. This blog is kindof my accountability partner, to "Be you. And be you WELL. Live the life you've imagined."

Cozy up. Enjoy, or don't. Afterall, this corner of the internet is reserved for me to just be me.

Friday, April 18, 2014

Reality Check

|Wishes aren't bad. But, be careful what you wish for.|

there are days i wake up and think "i wish someone paid me to sit in front of my computer and just write. about whatever i wanted to write about."
i picture mid-morning sunlight beaming through narrowly open blinds. i open the window to let fresh air bellow in. i brew a full pot of coffee, clench my warm mug, lean back in my chair, and relish in this wonderful set of moments.

But let's be real. If this were your life, you would yearn for a job a little less dependent on your creativity.
and. You hate coffee.

mjg

Thursday, April 17, 2014

The Hard Truth About Following Your Passion to Do Work You Love

October 25, 2013
By Jessica Sweet


How many times have you heard stories like these?
A woman loves making pottery, so she decides to open a little shop to sell her wares.
A man is passionate about writing, so he quits his job to focus on his first novel.
Then… wait for it…
Nothing happens.
Nothing. No customers, no readers, no clients. Zilch.

They return to the world of the “working dead” with their tails tucked between their legs and their egos bruised. But, worst of all, they’ve lost faith in the kind of world where they can make a living doing something they love.

But it didn’t have to be that way.

The hard truth about “following your passion”

We believe money will follow if we do what we love, but it’s a dangerous recommendation.

It makes sense that you’d make the most money when you do something you’re interested and invested in. When you bring your heart and soul to work, the work should earn you more than when you’re dragging yourself in every day.

Right?

As a career coach, I’ve seen it happen again and again. Clients get excited about their idea for a passion-based business. They start making plans, they mentally decorate their new offices and they wonder how their boss is going to take it when they’ve made enough money to quit. And they do all this without taking into account the biggest myth.

When it comes to earning money doing what you love, you have to remember:
Right now, nobody cares about your passions.
It isn’t about you.
It isn’t about your passion.
It’s about your clients and customers: what you give to them, what you do for them and how they benefit from knowing you. You have to make them care about your passion so much they’ll pay you to do it. (Click here to Tweet this thought.)

The Hollywood Principle

Many people blindly follow their passion, believing their love for it will be enough to make them successful. But they fail to factor in what I call The Hollywood Principle.

The Hollywood Principle states that no matter how passionate you are about something, nobody cares about it simply because you do.

If you want clients or customers, you need to be concerned with why they should care about what you’re doing, even when you’re doing what you love.

People fleeing the corporate world — the world of 9-to-5, dictated eating and bathroom schedules — tend to equate a passion-based business with freedom. They want the freedom to be their own boss, the freedom to be in charge of their own time and the freedom to do whatever it is they love.

With this mindset, they throw caution to the wind and do what they love without regard for The Hollywood Principle. They pursue their venture with the love and compulsion characteristic of passions.

But it all goes horribly wrong because they forget to connect what they love to something others will care about. They’re so engrossed in doing what they love and why it matters to them that they forget to look up and show others why they should care about it, too.

Don’t be fooled into thinking you have to contort your passion-based business into something it isn’t to find potential clients and customers. You’re not out to find any market need and fill it. That’s the old way of doing business, and also how you’ll end back up with something that feels like a “job.”

The real challenge is to persuasively communicate the gift of your passion, your mission and your unique value.

Your unique value

You’ve probably heard about unique value from the worlds of personal branding and job hunting. But in this case, instead of unique value being about who you are and the value you offer, it’s about what you’re really here to do.

Are you an expert at making pretty, functional pottery, or are you helping people to experience something through your work?

Are you writing a great novel, or are you on a mission to make people think about an issue so profoundly meaningful to you it’s a part of who you are?

Unique value for passion-based workers is very close to the heart. It’s why you do what you do. It’s the heart and soul of who you are.

You can start looking for your unique value by knowing what you love to give so much you can’t help giving it (your mission). Once you’ve found that, it’s your job to make other people care about it, too. Don’t just expect that other people will “get it.” Show them why they should care.

A passion with a mission behind it is a world-changing force.

Your challenge

If you dream of doing work based on your passion, answer these unique value questions in the comments below:

Why do you do your passion?

What do you bring to the table that no one else does?

What would you love to contribute to the world?

Spend your time doing something you absolutely love, and move away from wasting your life on things that don’t matter to you. Now is your chance to define what matters and why others should care about it as much as you do.

Jessica Sweet, LICSW, is a life and career coach who can help you uncover your passions and make money doing work you love.If you hate your current job, but going off the grid and moving to Zimbabwe isn’t your idea of a good time, it’s time to do what you love in a way that fits your real life. Join Jessica at http://wishingwellcoach.com/.

Brazen powers real-time, online events for leading organizations around the world. Our lifestyle and career blog, Brazen Life, offers fun and edgy ideas for ambitious professionals navigating the changing world of work.



mjg

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Is what it is



it's having 117 apps on your phone
and only using about 21.
yes, I have that many emails.
no, i will never simplify.
yes, i will just accept it.

i used to hang my clothes over my desk chair at my parents house.
now I have a grownup jet-tub to hang them over.
yes, i'm a creature of habit.
no, i will not outgrow some things.
yes, i will just accept it.

it's about being okay with it and moving on.

mjg

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

P = R

sometimes a shower feels like the most amazing thing in the world
sometimes a shower feels like just another to-do list item
perception=reality
mjg

Monday, April 14, 2014

Monday, from my desk.


1. In order to inspire, you must be inspired. In order to motivate, you must be motivated. You can teach leadership, but there's no guarantee a leader will emerge nor lead. One thing is certain, per Isaac Newton: "An object that is at rest will tend to remain at rest. An object that is in motion will tend to remain in motion."


2. I'm finding myself to be very nostalgic lately. I'm also finding I want to document EVERYTHING with pictures & words. Self-appointed historian, right here. Insert Autumn saying "She would make a scrapbook of her scrapbook." 


3. My music mood for Monday is currently undetermined.


4. I've been craving salad for 24 hours, which makes me question "who craves salad?!"


5. Aside from all that, today is going to be a really, really good day, for no other reason than I'm breathing.

mjg

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Mental Floss


the epitome of all things my brain.
Mental Floss.
i swear, written just for me.

mjg

Saturday, April 12, 2014

Road Rage

There's a road here in Michigan that's all the rage.
So is it's associated exit number.



Just another Michigan nugget for you.

mjg


Friday, April 11, 2014

Ahhhh, yes.



yes. yes.yes.yes.yes.

mjg

Friday, from my desk.


1. I bought more Washi Tape. I couldn't help it. (Autumn, before you lecture me, I bought you some surprises to cancel out the fact I bought more Washi Tape. Guaranteed at the word "surprises" you forgot I bought more Washi Tape. Except that, I just ended my sentence with the reminder. So, Surprises!)


2. The sun is beaming through my window, which means time to take My Shadow outside and toss the ball to him a couple times while I work in my garage office to prep some Scentsy goodies. 


3. So over the moon thrilled that Steve Utash is breathing on his own and speaking. Even more thrilled the 5 mobsters that attacked him are being punished. Another case you may or may not have heard of on the local news, about the man who enslaved 4 African children here in MI? I served on that jury, and am pleased to announce his sentence was issued this week. AND. Police have arrested a 16-year-old in connection with last week’s murder of 24-year-old father-to-be Nathan Trapuzzano. Kudos go to you today, law enforcement.


4. A hairstyle upgrade & some new glasses can make you feel brand new.


5. Fun plans scheduled for every minute of this weekend, so I then say:
Aside from all that, today is going to be a really, really good day, for no other reason than I'm breathing.

mjg

Thursday, April 10, 2014

Thursday, from my desk.


1. Today is just cool. Life is a miracle & meant to be cherished.


2. I am 690 Scentsy bars or 99 Premium warmers or well, $3446 away from having personally sold $200,000 in Scentsy products since February of 2008. Now, if only I had the square footage of all the areas I've scented in that time frame, or the number of smiles I've put on faces since journey's start. THOSE numbers would be awesome.


3. Lots of you are getting hooked on Springpad, based on yesterday's discussion here. I love sharin' my sweet finds!


4. Aside from all that, today is going to be a really, really good day, for no other reason than I'm breathing.

mjg

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Happy Office Walls









PAPAYA ART (www.papayaart.com)


Alas, my white office walls shall smirk back at me.
hammer & nails needed
hashtag no shoes required
hashtag inspiring
hashtag creativemind=love
my office. my place. all mine.

“Art enables us to find ourselves and lose ourselves at the same time.” ― Thomas Merton, No Man Is an Island


mjg


Tuesday, April 8, 2014

Tuesday, from my desk.


1. Ellie Goulding. I don't know what it is, but I love her voice|music|lyrics.


2. Today is going to be better than yesterday, because you can't go backwards and change yesterday's events, but you can face today with optimism & impact your present & future set of moments with a positive mind.


3. The more productive I am, the better I feel about EVERYTHING in my universe.


4. I'm really, really thankful for Autumn today and never want to wake a day and not be super appreciative of her. Reminder: Stop often and smell the roses & don't take anything for granted, for life is way, way short, yet precious.


5. Aside from all that, today is going to be a really, really good day, for no other reason than I'm breathing.

mjg

The best damn meatballs


1 bag of Costco meatballs
1 bottle of Carolina BBQ sauce
1 bottle of Hickory BBQ sauce
2 cans of jellied can cranberries
1 crockpot on low for 4 hours

Bam. You just scored yourself s'more dish-to-pass invitations.

mjg

Monday, April 7, 2014

Write Right.

"Others might not ever want to be a writer, but you should still care about writing. I’ll tell you why: it’s an incredible tool for learning about yourself. And if you’re an effective writer, you’re an effective communicator, thinker, salesperson, businessperson, persuader." - Leo Babauta
 Word(s).
mjg
 

Saturday, April 5, 2014

Smitten with the Mitten

There's something about Michigan. Something to being able to hold your hand up and point to where you live. In fact, I'm so used to showing out-of-staters where I live using my hand, that I once posed the same question to a friend of mine: "Your state is a rectangle (I turned my Michigan hand 90degrees). Where on my hand do you live?" She couldn't answer. I couldn't fathom. It's just what we do here.

There's something to the hearts of those who've been born here, have grown here, and those who have even left and returned.

 Then there's this speck in the "palm-pad" of the state, a speck the locals refer to as "The D." It's energy runs through the veins of those born into its culture. There's a lot of bad, yet, so, SO much good.
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Detroiters are proud of their city's rich industrial history and fond of the recognition they receive for living in the world's automotive capital. Nicknamed The Motor City, Detroit gave birth to electronic (techno) music and, of course, the Motown sound. Detroit celebrates its first-class status and lays claim to a number of fabulous firsts.

Detroit...

• is home to the Motown sound founded by Berry Gordy Jr. in 1957
• is the potato chip capital of the world, based on consumption
• has country's largest island park within a city – Belle Isle Park
• is home to the world's only floating post office, the J.W. Westcott II, can be found on the Detroit River
• is home to one of the largest flower-bedding markets in the world – Eastern Market
• is second in the nation in the sale of fishing rods
• is home to one of the tallest hotels in North America – the Detroit Marriott Renaissance Center, at 73 stories
• receives freighters from more than 100 world ports on the Detroit River
• has the most registered bowlers in the United States

Detroit was the first city nation to:
  • Assign individual telephone numbers (1879) 
  • Hold a state fair (the Michigan State Fair was the first held in 1849) 
  • Pave a mile of concrete road (on Woodward Avenue between Six and Seven Mile roads in 1909)
  • Install a traffic light, manually operated by a staff of policemen (1915) 
  • Share an automobile traffic tunnel between two nations (United States and Canada, 1930) 
  • Develop an urban freeway (the Davison in 1942) 
  • Taste an ice cream soda (when a clerk at Sanders confectionery ran out of sweet cream and in desperation used ice cream in 1875. The rest is history!) 
  • Hear the clickety-clack of a typewriter (invested in 1829 by Detroiter Austin Burt)
  • Enjoy morning coffee brewed in an automatic coffeemaker (the Coffee Clock invented by George Schuler)
  • Drink milk from a paperboard carton (by Pur-Pak in 1930)

Additional Fascinating Facts about Detroit

Detroit is the oldest city in the Midwest, and the only one from which one can look south to Canada.

The Ambassador Bridge, linking Detroit with Windsor (Ontario, Canada) is one of the longest international suspension bridges in the world.

James Vernor, who owned a Detroit drugstore and was Michigan's first registered pharmacist, developed the world's first carbonated drink in 1866. The Boston Cooler (vanilla ice cream and the ginger-flavored soda) is a classic Detroit taste sensation. The drink apparently was named for the city's Boston Boulevard, not the city in Massachusetts.
Detroit has Henry Ford, the man who put America on wheels, to thank for the advent of snack food. He allowed workers on his assembly line to take short breaks, which led to the trend of workers purchasing small bags of food that could be quickly consumed.

Cold Duck, the bubbly blend of wine and champagne, was introduced to Detroit at the Pontchartrain Wine Cellars, a former downtown Detroit restaurant.

The Eastern Market, a major commercial food distribution center famous for the quality, freshness and variety of its produce, meat, fish and even flowers, has been in existence since 1892.

In 1915, the first Kiwanis Club began in Detroit.

Detroit's downtown turn-of-the-century trolley cars, complete with old-fashioned, uniformed conductors, operated along Washington Boulevard and Jefferson Avenue.  The vintage trolley cars made their Detroit debut in 1976. The electric-powered cars were built in England, Germany, Portugal and the United States between 1895 and the 1920s.
Source: http://www.detroitmi.gov/Visitors/AboutDetroit/FascinatingFacts.aspx
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I'm a Michigan girl. And it's different here. And I could spend hours and hours writing, trying to explain the steady pulse that rhythmically beats against a backdrop of burnt out street lights. But I can't explain it to those who aren't from here. It's just something you're born with, or born into.

Pride, through & through.

mjg